1. Before you begin using your dilator kit, wash your hands and your dilator with mild, fragrance free soap and warm water or dedicated toy cleaner. Give yourself a little time and space so you can relax.
Choose a calm spot where you feel comfortable and let yourself move at a pace that feels right for you. There is no need to rush. Find a position that helps you reach your vagina easily.
Many people choose to lie back with their knees bent and legs apart. A mirror can also be useful if you want a clearer view.
2. You may want to begin by using your finger before moving on to the smallest dilator in the kit. Apply a generous amount of water based lubricant along the dilator and around the vaginal entrance so everything feels smooth and comfortable.
Starting small gives your body time to adjust to the sensation of insertion and helps you build confidence without pressure.
3. When you feel ready, place the tip of the dilator at the entrance of your vagina and gently guide it in. If anything feels uncomfortable, pause, breathe and allow your body to relax again.
Some people find that touching or masturbating beforehand helps them to unwind.
4. Continue easing the dilator in using the finger loop for control. Only go as deep as feels comfortable for you.
There is no requirement to insert it fully. You should not feel pain at any point. If you do, stop and give yourself a moment.
5. Once your chosen dilator is in place, you can simply let it rest for around 5 to 10 minutes. Once you are relaxed, you can begin to squeeze on the dilator. .When you feel ready, you can explore the next size.
Take your time as you work through the kit and only move on when the current size feels manageable and comfortable.
6. After each session, wash your dilator with mild, fragrance free soap and warm water. Allow it to air dry and keep it in the storage bag provided until you are ready to use it again.
For the best experience, try using your dilator set little and often. Starting with 5 minutes and slowly building up to around 10 minutes once or twice a day can help create a steady routine.
The most important thing is to take it at your own pace and keep everything comfortable and free from pain.