What's Your Love Language?

Let’s be honest, love is complicated. It’s not always grand gestures or whirlwind romance. Sometimes it’s someone making you a cup of tea just the way you like it, or reaching out to squeeze your hand in the middle of a stressful day. Other times, it’s more about a stolen kiss, a shared laugh, or even that quiet “I’ve got you” energy when someone plugs in your favourite vibrator without being asked.
We all want to feel loved. Not just in the big, sweeping rom-com way, but in the everyday stuff too, the touches, the words, the moments that make us feel seen and safe. But here’s the catch: not everyone speaks or hears “love” the same way.
That’s where love languages come in. They’re not some cosmic mystery or soppy relationship test. They’re actually pretty simple ways of understanding how we connect with each other and why something that means the world to you might not register for someone else.
And here at Skins, where we’re all about connection (emotional, physical, and the kinds that make you blush a little), we think love languages are more than just cute psychology. They’re also a really fun, genuinely helpful way to get more in sync, in and out of the bedroom.
Because once you know how you and your partner feel loved? Everything gets better. From how you argue to how you touch, how you flirt, and yes, how you play.
What are the 5 Love Languages?
Before we dive into each one Skins-style, let’s break them down. The five love languages were first introduced by Dr. Gary Chapman, and honestly? He might’ve been onto something.
The idea is this: we all tend to have a preferred way of giving and receiving love. While most people appreciate all five to some degree, there's usually one or two that hit hardest.
Here’s a quick overview:
- Physical Touch: This one’s pretty straightforward. Hugs, kisses, hand-holding, massages and, of course, more intimate kinds of contact. It’s not just about sex (though that can be a big part); it’s about closeness and presence
- Words of Affirmation: If a compliment lights up your day or a heartfelt note makes you tear up, this might be your jam. Think kind words, encouragement, love letters, or even a well-timed “you’re amazing”
- Receiving Gifts: This isn’t about materialism. It’s about thoughtfulness. A surprise chocolate bar, a just-because flower, or something fun and sexy to unwrap, the point is in the meaning behind the gift
- Acts of Service: For some people, actions speak louder than anything else. Making breakfast, running errands, charging your toy before a night in... it’s all about care through doing
- Quality Time: Focused, intentional time together. No distractions, no phones just attention, presence, and shared moments. Could be a deep conversation, a weekend away, or just cuddling through a film
Each language tells a different love story. And the beauty? When you learn to speak someone else's language, even if it’s not your default, things shift. You start connecting on a deeper level. You notice the little things. You feel more... in tune.
So, ready to find out which one speaks loudest to you? And how to turn it up a notch with a little help from Skins?
Let’s dive in.
Physical Touch: For the Ones Who Love a Proper Cuddle (and a Bit More)
If your idea of closeness is quite literally being close, skin-to-skin, hand-in-hand, all-in-each-other’s-space then physical touch is probably your love language. It’s not just about sex (though yes, that’s often a part of it); it’s about that spark of contact that reminds you, “I’m here, you’re here, and we’re in this together.”
Touch can be grounding. A cuddle after a rough day. A kiss on the forehead. A slow back rub that says "you don't even have to talk right now." It's one of the most immediate, powerful forms of connection we have.
But here’s the thing: for touch to feel loving, it needs to be intentional. It’s not just a quick squeeze as you walk past each other in the hallway. It’s eye contact. It’s hands lingering. It’s time spent being in each other’s space in a way that feels safe and chosen.
Enter the Skins Touch Vibrators. Whether you're exploring on your own or with a partner, these toys are made for people who crave connection through sensation. From deep G-spot pulses to blended bliss with a Rabbit or a tension-melting Wand, there's a vibe for every kind of touch-lover.
Why not turn a regular cuddle session into a whole evening of exploring different kinds of touch? Maybe it's a massage that slowly turns into something more, or maybe it's just lying close and letting yourself be fully present. If that happens to end in a climax or three... well, that’s just a happy bonus.
The point is, if touch is your love language, don't wait for it to just happen. Ask for it. Create space for it. Let it be playful, slow, silly, steamy whatever it needs to be in that moment.
Words of Affirmation: For the Lovers Who Live for Compliments
Some people need to hear it. Not just once, but often. “You’re incredible.”, “I love the way your mind works.”, “You looked so sexy this morning.”
If those kinds of things make your heart race or your knees wobble a bit, words of affirmation might just be your thing.
Words matter. They reassure, seduce, ground, and uplift. A simple text in the middle of the day that says "thinking of you" or a whispered "I love how you smell" during a cuddle can completely shift the mood.
And it doesn’t have to be serious all the time. A cheeky “that thing you do with your tongue?” followed by a 10/10 rating? That’s affirmation with a twist. Pair those words with actions for maximum effect, like gently applying some Skins lube while you whisper sweet nothings, whether you’re going for silky water based or the richer silicone kind.
Even non-verbal sounds count. A moan, a gasp, a laugh that escapes mid-kiss those are affirmations too, in their own way. They say, "I'm enjoying this," without a single full sentence.
The key here is noticing. Notice what they respond to. Some people want romance, others want cheek. Some melt at genuine praise, others light up at well-placed innuendo. Don’t be afraid to mix sincerity with playfulness. It doesn’t have to be poetry. Just real, heartfelt, and a little bit fun.
Receiving Gifts: For the Ones Who Adore a Thoughtful Surprise
This love language gets a bit of a bad rep. People hear "gifts" and assume it’s about stuff. But it’s really about thoughtfulness, the surprise, the intention, the fact that you were thinking of them when you saw that thing and decided it belonged in their world.
It could be as small as their favourite snack, a book they mentioned months ago, or a sexy something you think they’d love to unwrap (and maybe use on you later). The gift says, "I see you. I know you. And I want you to have something lovely."
Skins has a few suggestions, of course. Like:
- A Rose Buddies Vibrator - gorgeous, powerful, and practically begging to be unwrapped
- A pack of Flavoured Condoms - because why not make things taste as good as they feel?
- A trusty bottle of Skins lube - because smoothness is always a gift
You could even put together a little care package. Something intimate but thoughtful. Maybe a note tucked inside, maybe a cheeky instruction or two.
And don’t underestimate the power of wrapping. The unboxing is part of the joy. Ribbons, tissue paper, even just a tied-up scarf. Make it a moment.
The beauty of this language is it turns everyday objects into tokens of affection. If this is your partner’s love language, you don’t need to spend big. Just make it thoughtful. Make it feel like them.
Acts of Service: For the "I'll Do the Washing Up If You Run Me a Bath" Types
Some people don’t want love declared; they want it demonstrated. And if acts of service is your love language, you probably know the joy of a clean kitchen, a freshly made bed, or someone taking the dog out because you’re too knackered.
It’s not about chores, really. It’s about thoughtfulness turned into action. It’s doing something for someone else that makes their life a little easier, a little smoother, a little sweeter.
Like running a bath, lighting some candles, and handing them a warm towel. Better still? Offering a massage with a generous pour of Skins Silicone Lube. Silky, long-lasting, and just the right side of sensual. It says: "I planned this. I want you to relax."
And yes, even the tiniest gestures count. Charging their favourite toy before they realise the battery’s dead. Bringing them tea without asking. Clearing the evening schedule so they can rest, recharge, or maybe even have a cheeky early night.
It could be prepping their favourite meal, organising the laundry they’ve been too exhausted to face, or setting up a blanket fort for movie night. It’s the little everyday acts, stitched together with love and intention, that can make someone feel truly cared for.
This love language is about creating comfort. Creating ease. Showing up without being asked, and offering help in a way that feels supportive, not performative.
In relationships, acts of service often get overlooked because they’re not flashy. There’s no big crescendo. But there’s an incredible intimacy in these gestures. It’s love you can see and feel in the rhythm of everyday life.
And yes, it can be sexy too. Imagine walking into a bedroom that’s been tidied just for you, a toy warmed up and ready, a massage oil already opened. There’s something deeply arousing about being taken care of in a way that feels complete and considered.
When you understand this love language, you realise that service doesn’t mean sacrifice. It means care with purpose. It means effort with affection. It means showing love with your hands, your time, and your thoughtfulness.
So go ahead offer to do the washing up. Just make sure they know a sensual back rub might be on offer once the plates are dry.
Quality Time: For the "Let's Just Be Together" Souls
In a world of endless distractions, choosing to be present with someone is more meaningful than ever. Quality time doesn’t mean doing anything fancy. It just means being there, fully, intentionally, with no phone in hand and no to-do list in the way.
If this is your love language, you probably crave connection through presence. Long walks. Deep chats. Slow mornings. Sitting together in comfortable silence, feeling like nothing else needs to happen.
Skins-style quality time might look like:
- Exploring a new toy together
- Trying out all the flavoured consoms (yes, tasting is very much part of the process)
- Taking turns with the a Skins Touch Vibrator, letting pleasure unfold slowly and without an agenda
The main thing? No rush. No pressure. Just time. Together.
Quality time reminds us that love is in the now. Not in planning or fixing, but just... being. And sometimes, that’s the sexiest thing of all.
Speak Their Language... With a Little Help from Skins
Whether your partner lights up at a well-placed compliment, melts into your arms, or beams when handed a beautifully wrapped toy, there’s a Skins product to match their love language and yours.
Understanding love languages isn’t about fitting into a box. It’s about paying attention. To yourself. To them. To the ways you both feel safe, wanted, adored.
And when you can mix that with pleasure, with play, and with a little creativity? That’s where the magic really happens.
Explore the full Skins range and start speaking love in the language that makes you both feel good. Literally and emotionally.