How to Give Good Head?
Let’s cut to the chase. You’ve landed on this article, blog, guide, oral adventure, whatever you want to call it - because you want to know how to give a good (dare we say, great) blowjob… or at the very least, you’re looking to level up your head game.
No judgement here. In fact, full support. We love a learner.
Now, I know what you’re thinking: “Skip to the good stuff, please.” And fair enough. No one’s here for a deep dive into the history of oral sex (although, side note, it does go way back - humans have always been a little filthy).
But before we dive mouth-first into technique, let me buy myself a few more words with some context. You see, our lovely SEO guy insists that 400 words isn’t quite enough for Google to take us seriously.
And, honestly? I’m a fan of a bit of build-up. Fluff has its place - in foreplay, in blogs, in life.
So while you might be raring to go (understandable), I’m here to offer you a little warm-up. Consider this your oral pregame. Because just like a great blowjob, a good article deserves a bit of teasing before the main event.
Right, enough of that. Let’s get into it: the tips, tricks, and cheeky little secrets that’ll have you serving mind-blowing head like a pro - whether it’s your first time or your fiftieth.
From one enthusiastic head giver to another… let’s begin.
Just the Tips (Pun Absolutely Intended)
1. It's All About the Build Up
Just like the start of this article, where I definitely built the tension (I’ll assume you nodded) - you want to do the same in real life. Yes, we all know it can be fairly easy for men to get aroused, but that doesn’t mean you should skip the effort. In fact, the build-up is where the magic happens. The anticipation. The tease. The power.
This is a great time to bring in something like Skins Super Excite Stimulation Gel. A little dab can heighten sensitivity and get things tingling - literally. Apply it during your pregame and let it start working its magic while you do yours.
Make him wait. Make him squirm a little. Turn the act of giving head into an experience - one that feels deliberate, confident, and completely irresistible. This isn’t just about getting from A to O, as it never gets to Z. This is about owning the moment and letting him know exactly what’s coming…eventually.
2. Tactical Turn Ons
You know your partner’s turn-ons…or at least, you should. And if you don’t? Well, it’s time to find out. That knowledge is gold when it comes to building real, toe-curling tension.
Use it to your advantage. Start slow. Soft kisses here and there, anywhere and everywhere but there. It’s the art of anticipation. Tease them with your touch, run your hands over the places you know get them going. Whisper the things you’ve learnt they can’t resist, the stuff that makes their breath hitch and their body lean in.
A great way to amplify it? Bring in some flavoured lube. Whether it’s juicy Strawberry, refreshing Mango & Passionfruit, or our cheeky Bubblegum - flavoured lubes are ideal for oral. They taste great, make everything smoother, and encourage longer-lasting fun (because, frankly, it’s tastier).
Remember: This is your moment to play. Make them want it before they get it.
3. Who Doesn't Love a Massage
While you're busy kissing, and doing whatever else to build the tension - don't be shy about copping a feel. Let your hand wander down to his crotch and gently massage over his trousers… if he’s still wearing them, that is.
If the clothes have already come off (we love to see it), that’s absolutely fine. You can rest your hand on his penis and give it a slow, teasing stroke. And don’t forget the balls, they’re not just there for decoration. A little attention down there goes a long way, so feel free to get them involved early on. A squeeze of Skins Lube can help you explore there without friction, keeping things smooth and extra pleasurable.
4. Get Down
When you do decide it’s time to really get going, don’t just drop straight into position like you’re clocking into work. Make it a journey. Slowly work your way down their body - leave kisses along the chest, stomach, hips… maybe even throw in a cheeky comment or two on the way (a little dirty talk never hurt anyone). The idea is to keep them on edge, guessing what’s next, craving every move.
The closer you get, the more the anticipation builds. You’re in control here, so take your time. Look up at them, maintain eye contact if that’s your thing (hint: it’s usually their thing), and give them a knowing smile like, “Oh, you’re not ready for what’s about to happen.”
A little tip: if you’re planning to use a condom for oral (which we always recommend if you're playing safe), opt for Skins Flavoured Condoms. Same silky feel, plus an extra hit of flavour that makes everything sweeter…for both of you.
5. Start Soft
You don’t need to go full-throttle from the get-go. In fact, you really shouldn’t. Think featherlight licks, kisses, and gentle strokes with your tongue - barely there but very much felt. Trace around the head, play with the underside, kiss the shaft, lick the tip. This is your time to tease even more. Let them feel every second of what’s not happening yet.
And while you're there, don't forget the hands. One can stroke while the other plays with the balls or rests on their thigh, whatever feels natural. Keep things fluid, switch it up, and listen to their reactions. Moans and twitches = great signs.
6. Use That Mouth
Once you’re ready to go deeper, remember: it’s not a race. The key is rhythm, not speed. Start slow, use your tongue, create suction, and don’t underestimate the power of coming up for air and going back in with intention. Wetness is your friend here, lube it up, whether naturally or with a little help. If you're into flavoured lubes, now's the time to crack one out (we won’t judge your watermelon fantasy).
Think of it as a performance, but not a rigid routine - improvise, respond, play. You're giving pleasure and having fun.
Read more: How to Give the Perfect Hand Job?
Finishing Touches (Pun... Still Intended)
And there you have it - your oral arsenal, locked and loaded. Giving good head isn’t about porn-star precision or some mythical "perfect" technique. It’s about confidence, connection, and having a bloody good time while you’re at it.
Whether it’s your first blowjob or your hundredth, remember: you’re in control. Tease, play, pause, enjoy it. The goal isn’t just to impress, it’s to connect, to explore, and, let’s be honest, to leave them revealing is post-orgasm bliss.
So next time you’re getting down to business, think back to this guide. Channel your inner oral goddess. Take your time. And don’t forget: it’s called a job, but it should still be fun.
Now go forth, give great head, and remember - practice really does make perfect.
