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Written by Lucy Robinson
Published on: 05 May, 2025
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So, you’ve heard about it, maybe even tried it, and now you want to dive deeper into the 69 position? Well, you’ve come to the right place. Whether you’re a seasoned pro or a curious newbie, we’ve got you covered with everything you need to know. From what it is to how to get the most out of it, here’s your ultimate guide to the 69 position, get ready for a fun ride!

 

What is the 69 Position?

Alright, let’s start with the basics. The 69 position is, essentially, a mutual oral sex position where both partners are simultaneously performing oral sex on each other. Think of it like a bit of a culinary buffet but, you know, a lot more intimate and involving bodies rather than plates. You’re upside down and sideways to each other, usually with one partner on top of the other.

The idea is that both people are getting pleasure at the same time, and you’re both in a position to enjoy and provide pleasure. It’s like a team effort, with both partners equally involved in the experience. Sometimes it works best when one partner is on top of the other, but there’s no hard rule about how it must be done, just what feels best for you both.

 

How to Do the 69

When it comes to the 69 position, there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. It’s all about comfort, coordination, and communication (yes, those things are important!). Here’s a step-by-step breakdown to get started:

1. Find a Comfortable Setup

First thing’s first: you need to find a position that works for both of you. Typically, one person lies down on their back while the other positions themselves above them, often with their head near their partner’s pelvis. But you can play with angles! You could both lie on your sides, or one person could kneel and the other lie on their back. The key is that you’re both in close proximity so you can perform oral sex comfortably.

2. Focus on Communication

It might sound obvious, but communication is key. Before you dive in, make sure you both know what each other likes. What do they want you to do? What feels good to you? Don’t be shy about letting each other know what’s working (or not working). Adjust accordingly to ensure everyone’s comfortable and enjoying themselves.

3. Get in Sync

The 69 position requires a bit of coordination. It’s a bit like a dance, you’ll need to move in sync to make sure you’re both in the right spots. Go slow at first and see how the rhythm feels. If you’re both able to maintain a natural flow, you’ll be able to enjoy it much more.

4. Explore Different Angles

It’s not just about head-to-toe! Feel free to experiment with the angle of your bodies and how you’re positioned relative to each other. One of you might want to sit up slightly or change the height of your hips to increase or decrease stimulation. Don’t be afraid to switch things up to see what works best for you both.

 

Why Should We Partake in the 69 Position?

Good question! Why is the 69 position so popular? Is it just because it sounds fun and cheeky? Well, yes, but there are a few other reasons why it’s a fan favourite:

  • Simultaneous Pleasure - The biggest draw of the 69 position is the ability for both partners to experience pleasure at the same time. There's something incredibly intimate and satisfying about both of you getting the satisfaction you deserve while engaging with one another.
  • Builds Intimacy and Connection - It’s a deeply intimate position, requiring both physical closeness and mutual trust. You’re not just physically close but also sharing a vulnerable act together. That closeness can help build a deeper emotional connection between partners.
  • Increased Variety and Fun - 69 offers a fun and exciting variation to your usual oral sex routine. Sometimes, it’s nice to mix things up with a different angle of pleasure. It also allows for more exploration of different erogenous zones, whether it’s teasing your partner’s neck, chest, or elsewhere while they do the same.
  • Bonding Over Pleasure - In many ways, the 69 position is a shared experience, not just an individual one. This mutual act of giving and receiving pleasure can lead to a stronger emotional connection between partners. Plus, when you see your partner getting turned on by your touch, it can really boost the excitement.

 

How to Spice Up the 69 Position

Ready to take your 69 to the next level? If you’ve tried it once and want to turn things up a notch, here are a few ways to spice it up:

  1. Change the Location - A change of scenery can make all the difference. Try different places around the house or even outdoors (if you’re feeling adventurous). A cosy bed is nice, but imagine the thrill of being on a soft rug by a fireplace or even on the sofa. The new surroundings can heighten the excitement.
  2. Incorporate Toys - You can also bring in some sex toys to add extra pleasure. A vibrator can work wonders during 69, providing added stimulation while both partners continue to give oral pleasure. It’s a great way to introduce new sensations and keep things fresh.
  3. Vary the Pace - Not every moment of 69 has to be at the same pace. Switch between slow, sensual licks and quicker, more intense motions. A little change in rhythm can keep things exciting and unpredictable, leading to even more enjoyment.
  4. Play with Temperature - Want to add another dimension to the experience? Try incorporating temperature play. Using ice cubes to cool down your mouth or a warm massage oil for a slick, soothing touch can offer a whole new sensory experience.
  5. Tease Each Other - The beauty of 69 lies in the fact that you can tease your partner while pleasuring them. Try changing up your movements or holding off just a little before going further. That element of teasing will keep things playful and create even more intense pleasure when you finally dive back in.
  6. Change the Angle or Position - Get creative with how you both position yourselves. The 69 position isn’t just about lying flat, it can be adapted in so many ways. For example, one partner can lie back on the bed while the other straddles them, or one partner can kneel while the other reclines. Experiment with how you angle your bodies to find what feels best.

 

And Most of All... Enjoy the Ride

At the end of the day, the 69 position is all about fun, intimacy, and exploration. It’s a playful way to enjoy each other’s company while exploring mutual pleasure. Like with all things in the bedroom, the most important thing is that both partners feel comfortable, respected, and are having a great time.

So, whether you're looking to try it for the first time or want to add some spice to your current routine, give the 69 position a go and see where the experience takes you. Happy exploring!

Lucy Robinson
Head of Marketing

Lucy Robinson is a content-driven marketing expert at Skins Sexual Health, specializing in creating engaging, informative materials that promote open conversations about sexual wellness.

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