How to get over a sexual dry spell with your partner
No matter how much you sometimes want to rip each others’ clothes off, there will be times where life just gets in the way. You might be too tired, she might be on her period, you might both prioritise watching the latest episode of Game of Thrones (we’re right aren’t we!?) Well whatever the reason, there will be times in your life where you experience a dry spell, or what we call a ‘sexual slump’.
First things first…a sexual slump doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you; it just means that you don’t really fancy it right now. And that’s ok. Because it means you can focus you’re energy into having great sex when you are next feeling frisky. You can maybe think about new things to try or what you might wear or where you’d like to do it. Thinking about the issue, the good times and the ways in which you can fix it can be a real turn on for a start. Whilst it takes two to tango, putting some time into your own sexual thoughts is a start in getting you back on track.
Sexual slumps don’t last forever, so before you write off your relationship, think of ways that you could improve your sex life. Getting more sleep, exercising and simply just putting the time aside are all things that can help. But if there’s one bit of advice that tops it all, it’s talk. Talk with your partner about why you’re not doing it and what you could do to improve the situation. Geez, talking about sex alone can get you fired up and the conversation could be foreplay to your foreplay! *wink wink*
A sexual slum can actually be a good thing. It creates an opportunity to revaluate your sex life and make it better. Routine, ‘samey’ sex can be the exact reason you’re not feeling it and have lost your mojo. No one has kinky, out-of-this-world, 50 Shades sex every day…not even Christian Grey himself. So the fact you’ve got in a rut is normal, it happens. Getting in to a sex slump may not be great but getting out of a sex slump is definitely fun! If you’re looking to spice it up a little, there’s a number of things you can try. Adult retailers such as SXY.co.uk stock a huge range of items from lubes and vibrators to sex board games and bondage gear.
It’s easy to forget sometimes how great sex can be. But the benefits are endless and can improve so many aspects of your life. If you focus your energy into having good sex, you'll be reminded of all the physical and emotional benefits which will help pull you out of that rut.
So time to stop sulking, go get sexy and say ‘see ya later’ to your sex slump!
